9 months to go!
Happy 2009! I hope your holidays were lovely! Now that we’re in this new year I think things are going to get exciting… and seeing as we’re already a week into January, leaving just about 9 months left until I say “I do”, like any bride-to-be, I’m also getting a little anxious!
I have to admit though things have recently been coming together nicely…
- -Over the weekend, the fiancé and I went to an estate sale where we picked up 12 dozen mason jars to use for beer/beverage glasses at the wedding for 35$ (!!), which works out to about 24 cents a jar! Score!
- -Last week, I made my way to the local IKEA for some of these to use as water bottles for our dinner tables (though, since the fiancé thinks he’s going to use them for home-brew beer we may have an tussle on our hands).
- -We’ve gotten over our guest-list-hacking anxiety, and as a result the final list is on the horizon.
- -I’ve started several (and completed one, more about that later) of the sewing projects that will need to be completed before October 3rd.
- -Since my mom is making my dress I’ve been gathering photos of dresses I really like for the last several months. I weeded through those photos and narrowed it down to 3 dresses that I LOVE! Start sewing, Mom!
So, all in all a productive start to my year. There is however the small matter of the groomsmen suits… What’s that you say? You thought I decided on brown suits?
Well, I did!
Originally, I wanted the guys to wear navy suits. But, the fiancé thought that navy suits and navy dresses was just too much blue! So, after weeks of debate and several respectable outside opinions he had me convinced that brown groomsmen suits and navy bridesmaid dresses were the way to go. I was happy to report that my Groom and his guys would be sporting brown suits! It was after all this decision that sparked inspiration for the flower girl’s dress color and the ring bearer’s suit color! Apparently, however, my darling fiancé did not pull the wool so far down over his groomsmens eyes as he did mine. Apparently, a rebellion was building. On Christmas Day, the fiancés brother instated Operation Any-Color-but-Brown Suits.
As far as I can tell, the argument is that if the groomsmen are buying their own suits, they’d like to be able to wear them again. Totally reasonable. I agree. So, what’s wrong with Brown? Brown is in style! It can be as formal or as casual as you need it to be and it looks good! I need some input before I either rally the troops or raise my white flag in defeat.
January 7th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
GO BLUE TEAM! DOWN WITH BROWN!
January 7th, 2009 at 1:49 pm
Haha! I have to 2nd the Blue!
January 7th, 2009 at 1:52 pm
I really like the brown. Blue will look stupid and then it will look like your color is just navy blue and thats boring.
January 7th, 2009 at 1:53 pm
And just because brown is in style doesn’t mean everyone will like/look good in it! I would say that (generally) navy blue is a much more universal color that’s going to look better on most guys.
January 7th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
GO BLUE.
That is all.
If I’m going to drop the bank on a suit, I’d prefer to get to choose the color!
January 7th, 2009 at 2:36 pm
go with your initial instinct and choose BLUE!
besides, you and your dress will stand out all the more.
January 7th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Alright alright. What if we do brown pants and navy sports coats? You’d be more apt to wear brown pants again, just about everyone and their brother *ahem* has a navy sport coat, and the bridal party won’t look like an Annapolis Alumni reunion.
*desperately waves Swiss flag*
January 7th, 2009 at 2:51 pm
I vote for brown!
January 7th, 2009 at 2:58 pm
“The board is set. The pieces are moving.”
January 7th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Brown pants you say? I’d be open to that option!
January 7th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
I say brown is the way to go. I don’t think that the people you’ve asked to be in the wedding should be causing you stress about what you want for YOUR wedding. I think the boys should get over it and do what the bride wants. PERIOD!
January 7th, 2009 at 3:05 pm
Now now, hostility will get you nowhere!
January 7th, 2009 at 3:05 pm
ooo ooo actually I agree with concerned citizen, they can foot the bill for our suits, and then they can get whatever they want. I like this plan, I’m glad to be a part of it!
January 7th, 2009 at 3:07 pm
Normally I’d agree with you “Concerned Citizen”… however, the guys usually rent their formal wear (in which case, the color doesn’t matter either way b/c it’s a one day thing). But, in this case, the suits need to be purchased - therefore the guys are spending $200-$300 on something they don’t want to wear again (and yes, I realize that’s a typical request for bridesmaids.. but not groomsmen) - Hence, the dilemma.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:14 pm
Please note that the UBU (United Brothers Union) is currently in negotiations with the Idoyoudowedo team and we hope to find a mutually beneficial solution to our attire differences. We’re also looking to get a full pension plan and health benefits, but will reveal more details at a later time.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:23 pm
Personally, I agree with Concerned Citizen. Its there wedding and they should pick. Isn’t this something the bridesmaids would have a tiff about, the color and style of dresses. We all agreed pretty quickly. You guys are just being difficult. I think you all will look great in Brown. It is in style. And it’s not like its a lighter brown. It’s a dark brown, almost black but not black.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
It is with some regret that we inform the general community that IDYDWD has been denied access to emergency bailout funds from Congress. As such, we must respectfully decline any further requests for pension and health negotiations from UBU. We are still confident that a deal can be brokered regarding the disputed wedding attire. We look forward to UBU’s ongoing cooperation regarding this matter.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:28 pm
Great! How about the girls wear the dresses in the “black but not black” color (since you’re all so amiable) and the guys can wear navy so you still have the brown/navy combo! Problem solved!
January 7th, 2009 at 3:43 pm
But we all agreed on dresses! No problem with us. We all will look great in Navy Blue, we all like the Navy Blue. And that’s not what my sister wants!! She wants the girls to wear Navy and the guys to wear Brown! Yes, she may have said Navy for the guys as well before but she saw a wedding of guys wearing Brown and liked it and that’s what she wants. She can’t decide now because now there is a controversy over the suits!
January 7th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
I don’t believe UBU would describe the situation as “controversial”. On the contrary (hahaha), I’m confident that we’ll work this out with IDYDWD in a less spirited manner than what we’ve seen by outside parties here in the comments section. Our official stance is that we are not fans of poop-colored suits, but as we said, negotiations are under way and progressing well, so no need to start pulling out the pitchforks just yet.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
What exactly is the difference between spending $200-$300 on a suit you wont wear again vs spending $200-$300 on a tux you wont wear again? Not to get too far off topic, but I don’t see one. Either is what I would consider to be an unnecessary burden. I would argue it is a question of economics rather than some trumped up sense of style.
Hang on, this is a wedding, right? Well, in that case we should go ahead and make others spend whatever we think is necessary of course. That’s what people have all those money tree groves for.
Mayhaps this is a topic to be discussed behind closed doors. In a bunker. 100s of miles below the earth’s crust.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:51 pm
LOL! Just a suggestion! People are getting awfully huffy! Okay, guys
I don’t know where you’re renting from, but the cost shouldn’t be $200-300! Regardless, I’m sure negotiations between those who are making/directly affected by these decisions (i.e.- the groomsmen & the couple and NOT others) will work themselves out. And GOOD FOR YOU, BRIDESMAIDS! I’m glad you’ll live happily ever after 
Meanwhile, good luck to the groomsmen & couple! I’m sure there’s a middle ground.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:53 pm
take it off-line, kids
January 7th, 2009 at 3:53 pm
definitely brown, its of the season. maybe something like this- with a different (not at all?) vest:
http://www.clothing-for-men.com/product_details_114.htm
January 7th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
THANK YOU BRANDON! It will look good!
January 7th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
WOW!!!
January 7th, 2009 at 4:05 pm
this sounds like Reality TV
January 7th, 2009 at 4:06 pm
Well it’s still her decision! She just asked for others’ opinions
And I think she probably has too many, now. lol!
January 7th, 2009 at 4:12 pm
“Chaos erupts from the comments onto the streets. It’s an all out flame war, next time on I Do, We Do, OHNOYOUDIDN’T!”
January 7th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
LOL!!!
January 7th, 2009 at 4:39 pm
You know, initially I thought brown was a terrible color… But now I agree with the bride, brown is in style! Navy suits are so boring…and if the whole wedding party wears navy it will end up looking like a military wedding. And if Paul and Frank (Guy with an actual name?) actually want to wear the suits again (to something other than a job interview) brown is the way to go.
January 7th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
Well, Ok then… thanks for all of your opinions. I have this to say… Thank you to those of you who have voted brown! I appreciate not only your impeccable fashion sense but your ability to see and understand my vision for our wedding. The fiance and I will take into consideration all of your comments/concerns, though we’ll probably exclude the ridiculous ones, and come up with some arrangement that is agreeable for all parties involved.
For the record, I don’t think it’s Ok to request your bridesmaids to shell out large sums of money for attire they’ll only wear once, but to not ask the groomsmen to do the same thing. Actually, I don’t think it’s fair to ask ANY of your bridal party to fork over lots of money for something they don’t think they’ll wear again! Whatever decision is made it will be an economical one, at least.
I still don’t see the problem with brown, other than “we don’t want to”. But like I said, we’ll work something out.
January 7th, 2009 at 4:54 pm
I don’t think trying to convince the groomsmen how “in style” the brown suits are is going to make them want to wear them for any purpose other than the wedding. If overalls were in style, would you be more likely to wear them?
January 7th, 2009 at 5:05 pm
I vote brown! And since the wedding is so close to christmas, make them wear santa hats! That way they will all look like Mr Hanky The Christmas Poo
January 7th, 2009 at 5:20 pm
Everything you wear is based on what’s “in style” in some sense or another. Otherwise I’d be coming to work in a wife beater and King Koopa slippers.
Regardless, we’ll let this stand and see what comes of the discussions amongst the parties involved.
January 7th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
Is lime green off the table? Maybe something with suspenders?
January 7th, 2009 at 7:46 pm
Brown- hands down.
January 7th, 2009 at 8:15 pm
GO BLUE!!!!
January 7th, 2009 at 8:20 pm
Although I understand that brown may be “the new black” I am not a big fan of a poo colored wedding party. I think it will also depend on what color tie you plan on having them wear- it might not photograph well.
January 7th, 2009 at 11:10 pm
I’m not even going to vote, I’m too busy laughing at the comment thread. Good luck!
January 7th, 2009 at 11:25 pm
OMG. LOL. Why all the sarcasm? Someone’s panties are in a twist. Were you a victim of the guest-list-hacking?
January 8th, 2009 at 9:35 am
I have to say that, if nothing else, this discussion has been thoroughly entertaining
January 8th, 2009 at 10:09 am
Of course the vote is for BLUE
January 8th, 2009 at 1:18 pm
Sarcasm is fun!
January 8th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
I vote the person who has the final say has to marry the Fiance.
January 27th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
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